WHY ABORTION IS NOT WOMEN'S FAULT
WOMEN DON'T JUST "GET" PREGNANT. PREGNANCY CAN ONLY OCCUR WHEN A MAN CHOOSES VAGINAL RELEASE (VR)
Pull Up a Chair. Let’s Actually Talk.
We're going to say this plainly, because dancing around it hasn’t helped anyone:
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Women do not just “get” pregnant.
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Pregnancy ONLY happens when a man puts his sperm into a vagina, during asmall fertility window. That’s it.
Not vibes. Not destiny. Not because you were “careless.” Biology does not run on guilt.
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If you’re here feeling scared, embarrassed, or mad at yourself - it's ok. That reaction is extremely common.
It’s also deeply undeserved.
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Take a breath. We’ll get through this together.
THE PART THEY NEVER EXPLAIN CLEARLY
Here’s the thing your health class skipped:
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Women are fertile for about one day a month. Men are fertile every single day.
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Pregnancy is not some equal-opportunity accident, be for real right now.
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Most sex does not cause pregnancy. But every ejaculation into a vagina can.
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That difference matters. Women aren't in charge of where or when men ejaculate. They are.
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BREATHE GIRL... IT'S LITERALLY NOT YOUR FAULT
1. MEN ARE MORE FERTILE THAN WOMEN
Most times a woman has sex, she will not become pregnant, because her egg is not always fertile. But every time a man has sex, he can potentially impregnate someone, because he is always fertile.
WOMEN: UNPREDICATABLY FERTILE FOR ONLY 24 HOURS A MONTH
MEN: PREDICTABLY FERTILE 24 HOURS EVERY DAY UNTIL DEATH
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WOMEN: CREATES 1 PREGNANCY PER YEAR
MEN: CREATES DOZENS OF PREGNANCIES IN 1 YEAR
2. MEN OFTEN TRY TO GET OUT OF SAFE SEX
"No one is forcing you to have unprotected sex!" or "Just make him wear a condom!" are common phrases women hear, as if it such a simple task to be responsible for both parties.
In reality, even loving partners try to get out of safe sex all the time, prioritizing their pleasure over safety and potential pregnancy. This should not occur. Men who claim condoms "don't feel as good" are usually:
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1. Not using enough lube
2. Unpracticed at using condoms
3. Have not experimented with enough brands
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Encourage your partner to practice more and experiment with more brands, lubes and flavors to see the differences. Men who use condoms regularly are confident, and do not find any noticeable difference in personal pleasure. Men who are confident with safe sex also report fewer inhibitions from partners, who feel safe exploring new things with them.
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HOW TO RESPOND TO EXCUSES:
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WEAK EXCUSES
Condoms don't feel as good / I can't afford them / I am allergic to latex / They don't fit or always break on me (wink!) / It ruins the moment / I might not stay up
HOW TO REPLY
No problem, we don't have to have sex / That's funny - here's a condom! / Ok, I've got to get going then / This is not negotiable / I don't want a baby / Children ruin the moment / Try the non allergic kind / It will be worth it, I promise / Yes you can afford them / I want to try some new things with you but want to feel safe / We have not gotten tested yet / It's my policy / You're no fun
3. BLAME VS RESPONSBILITY
If pregnancy and abortion is not women's fault, does that mean she has no responsibility to prevent it? Does it mean women get a free pass to sex without consequence? Relax, Boomer - sex has never been consequence free for women, and it still isn't.
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Women have always, and should always be as responsible as possible to protect themselves from foreign bodily fluids that can cause disease or pregnancy. However, the level of responsibility is not the same, and places far more on the man. While women cannot ever control the fertility or location of her egg, men always know they are fertile, and do control the location of their semen.
For this reason, it is not women who determine when a pregnancy might occur - her eggs and fertility are never within her control. It is only when a man decides to expel his semen vaginally that a woman can become pregnant. This is not a matter of "blame", but of actual responsibility. If a man expels anywhere else on the planet, no pregnancy will occur, no matter what the woman does.
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